The Excellence Paradox: Why Our Pursuit of Success Is Making Us Miserable—and the Biological Secret to Fixing It
In a cultural ecosystem saturated by the tyranny of the algorithm and the hollow aesthetics of "hustle culture" (where personal worth is often measured in vanity metrics and a near-robotic efficiency) Brad Stulberg’s voice emerges as a necessary and lucid corrective. His latest work, The Way of Excellence, is far more than another self-help manual for performance optimization; it is a profound philosophical and biological treatise. Stulberg urges us to dismantle our modern, frantic understanding of success in order to reclaim something far older and more essential: our humanity. Known for dissecting the mechanics of high performance, he pivots here from "quick fixes" to map a path toward greatness that is, paradoxically, a return to our evolutionary roots.
1. Excellence as a Biological Imperative
Stulberg anchors his argument in the bedrock of science, reaching back to the very dawn of life. He reminds us that excellence is not a concept invented by 21st-century management consultants, but a force of nature itself. He utilizes the term "homeostatic upregulation" to describe the innate drive of all organisms—from simple bacteria to complex human beings—toward flourishing and progress. Excellence, therefore, is not a final destination one reaches, but a continuous process of growth hardcoded into our DNA.
2. The Perfection Trap and the Impostors of Success
One of the book’s sharpest insights is the distinction between genuine excellence and its "impostors": perfectionism, obsession, and mechanical optimization. Stulberg denounces "pseudo-excellence"—that arrogant, noisy mask seeking constant validation—against authentic excellence, which is quiet, consistent, and deeply respectful of the craft. While perfectionism leads to burnout, true excellence allows us to discern what truly matters and let go of the rest.
3. The Collapse of Subject and Object: Pirsig’s "Quality"
The author pays homage to Robert M. Pirsig and his seminal concept of "Quality." Stulberg argues that excellence manifests when the distance between the actor and the act vanishes. It is that transcendent moment when the craftsman merges with his tool or the musician with the note. When we value an activity and pour our entire being into it, quality rises naturally. This integration is our primary defense against modern alienation—the haunting feeling of being disconnected from our own lives.
4. Mastery and Mattering: The Formula for Deep Satisfaction
For Stulberg, profound satisfaction is born at the intersection of mastery (developing skills in something we value) and "mattering" (the sense that our contribution has significance). The book suggests that peace cannot be found in the vacuum of external achievement; genuine self-respect is born from effort and real competence, not from the fleeting validation of social media likes.
5. The Four Stages of Competence
The author traces the arc of learning through a model of human development: from "unconscious incompetence" to the coveted "unconscious competence." Stulberg emphasizes that to reach final mastery, one must eventually let go of the analytical thinking and conscious effort that got them there, allowing "visceral wisdom" or instinct to take the lead.
6. The Phenomenon of the "Zombie Burnout"
In a biting sociological analysis, Stulberg introduces the concept of "zombie burnout": a state of moving through life half-dead, simultaneously restless and exhausted. It is not merely the result of doing too much, but of not doing enough of what truly sets us on fire. The solution isn't passive rest, but the pursuit of activities that restore our sense of autonomy and belonging.
7. Environment Design Over Willpower
Challenging the heroic narrative of "willpower," Stulberg offers a more pragmatic vision: the design of ecosystems that support excellence. He acknowledges that it is impossible to fight the technologies of distraction with discipline alone; we must build environments—both physical and digital—that act as positive constraints, allowing us to focus our attention on what is truly valuable.
8. Consistency Over Intensity
The book challenges the cult of momentary intensity. Excellence, he argues, is built in the small, mundane details and the regularity of practice. It is about "laying the floor and tending the soil" so that seeds can eventually sprout. Success is not the pitcher’s no-hitter, but all the invisible work that preceded that moment—and the work that will follow it.
9. Excellence as a Form of Love
In a moving turn toward the end, Stulberg equates excellence with love. He asks: what is deep care, repeated attention, and constant dedication if not acts of love? By seeking excellence in medicine, art, parenting, or leadership, we are participating in a generative force that gives quality to our existence and the lives of those around us.
10. The Transformation of the Self
Stulberg’s final teaching is that the true prize of excellence is not the trophy or the accolade, but the person you become during the process. Internal growth is the ultimate reward. Excellence invites us to reclaim our innate drive for expression and progress, leaving a unique mark on the world while reconciling us with our best selves.
About the Author
Brad Stulberg is a renowned researcher and writer specializing in human health, well-being, and sustainable performance. He is the author of several bestsellers, including The Practice of Groundedness and Peak Performance. His work is characterized by integrating cutting-edge science with ancient wisdom and practical philosophy. He is a regular contributor to The New York Times and serves as a coach to elite athletes, executives, and entrepreneurs seeking excellence without compromising their mental health.
Conclusions
The Way of Excellence is a foundational work for anyone feeling adrift in the age of distraction. Stulberg achieves something rare: being scientifically rigorous without losing human warmth. His book is a map toward a life of deep satisfaction, reminding us that excellence is our birthright and our most powerful tool for navigating a chaotic world.
Why You Should Read This Book
You should read this book if you feel your productivity is hollow or if external success has failed to meet your expectations of happiness. It is essential reading for leaders, artists, and anyone wishing to transform their work into an act of presence and meaning. Stulberg doesn't teach you how to be "the best in the world," but how to be the best at the process of getting better—a promise that is far more sustainable and rewarding.
Glossary of Key Terms
Homeostatic Upregulation: The innate biological drive toward growth and improved functioning.
Zombie Burnout: A state of exhaustion caused by a lack of meaningful activity, resulting in a restless fatigue.
Mattering: The feeling that our actions have meaning and that our contribution is valuable to others.
Pseudo-excellence: The pursuit of the appearance of greatness and external attention rather than actual mastery of a craft.
Shitty Flow: Moments of absorption without value, such as "doom-scrolling" through social media.
Unconscious Competence: The final stage of learning where execution is fluid and requires no conscious analytical thought.
APA Reference
Stulberg, B. (2025). The Way of Excellence: A Guide to True Greatness and Deep Satisfaction in a Chaotic World. HarperOne.
















